Frequently Asked Questions
So, you're thinking about going to your first fetish club but are not sure what to expect…
It's really not as frightening as most people imagine.
Its not all leather clad men in Nazi hats swinging chains and bull whips around, and its not a place where everyone removes their clothes and frolics around naked.
Its just ordinary people like you and me that fancy a night out with a bit of a difference and who enjoy the good social atmosphere that fetish clubs have as well as the opportunity to play out their fantasy amongst open minded people.
Nobody is under any pressure to do anything they don't want to.
Now for some of the most commonly asked questions :
Q. What do I wear?
For a start wear something comfortable. It's a long night. Don't go out and spend a fortune before you know you want to come back for more. Fancy dress shops are great and you will often see people dressed up in surgeons, pirates and period costumes. Sexy is nice but what you would consider a little over the top for a vanilla night out will probably be a little too vanilla at a fetish one.
When researching for our Hades dress code we spoke to a large majority who really didn't want to dress up and so we have decided that fetish black will be acceptable. That's not black jeans and a black shirt but something a little more individual. Underpants and socks is not considered fetish.
Q. Can I get changed at the venue?
Yes. In general it's a good idea to arrive in street clothing and get changed at the club. Don't linger in the club in you're vanilla clothing or you will probably be asked to leave.
Q. Can I go on my own?
Some fetish clubs do not encourage single men but that is not a problem at Hades as long as you understand protocol. We feel the attitude is more important.
Q. If I go along as a single sub, do I need to make myself available to Doms/Dommes?
The unattached submissives present are not fair game for any roaming Dominant. Every submissive should be treated with courtesy and respect.
Remember everything and anything that goes on within the club is consensual. Not all people attending are submissives or dominants. Some may just like dressing up or they may be into other types of play. Don't ever presume that a person is submissive just because they look it.
Q. What about alcohol ?
One thing you will find out very quickly about fetish clubs is that it is very, very unusual to see aggressive drunken (or even merely drunk) people. Alcohol can be purchased at the bar but it is not advisable to over drink if you intend to play or you're a single female. Remember that alcohol and drugs impair the mind and senses.
Q. Would I be expected to play?
We want you to have fun and if that means playing to your hearts content or just watching and having a bit of a social then that is entirely up to you. Many people that go to fetish clubs are not public players.
Q. What sort of scenes should I expect to see?
You will probably see a huge variety of scenes. Hades has 2 large play room. The first is for lighter play where lots of spanking will go on as well as some bondage and a little exhibitionism. The other room is for more edgy play where you will see things such as needle play and more hard core humiliation. If you don't like a particular scene then you are free to walk away from it. If you wish to observe a scene then always stand well back and never intervene.
General Protocol
Every Dominant and submissive is expected to bring all tools and toys they expect to use or scene with. It is inappropriate to touch, handle or use any other person's equipment or toys without the specific approval of the owner.
Sometimes public scenes can get very involved and multiple, with Dominants and submissives scening in the same area. This type of close contact of mingled scenes can be enormously exciting for those involved and those looking on as spectators. It is important to remember that in-scene subs are solely responsive to the direction of their personal dominant and that any in-scene touching, scening or playing with any submissive not your own is considered not only rude but non-consensual.
When a scene commences in your vicinity you should respectfully withdraw to a distance sufficient to allow the players ample room to accomplish to scene without interference.
You should never move into an ongoing scene and touch or involve yourself in any way. You should also be alert to the usage of tools and equipment as their usage in tight space presents real danger of inadvertent contact for those not paying attention.
It's great to watch, enjoy and learn but please refrain from masturbation.
If a particular scene upsets or worries you then please speak to a dungeon monitor.
Do not approach the players.
Its really just a case of good manners and understanding that no means NO.
Remember these simple rules – and have a great time!